I can’t tell you guys how many times i felt over whelmed, underappreciated, and just tired of life’s trials and tribulations. The one thing that everyone has in common is that we all eat sleep and have shit that just don’t need to happen. As a child i use to tell my mother i couldn’t wait to become an adult, as an adult i wish i could be a child. Life is sometimes hard,unfair,scary and overwhelming. You guys already know im a women in my thirties with a 9 year old son and a husband, and i go to school and work a full time real job. At times i want to give up and just stay stagnate. There are times i just want to quit and accept a life that is really not enough for me. When things are at the worst is when we feel that is no way out. This blog is called a rocky life because one my name is Rocky .-sidebar My grandmother loved Sylvester Stallone and thought i was going to be boy . You know how the old people are they have these intuitions that are sometimes right and most of the time wrong. Well grams was wrong and here i am a natural born female name Raquel . So rocky is my nickname actually until i was 6 I didn’t know my real name was Raquel . That’s another story. I say all that to say my life is really rocky . There are some patches that are smooth, then all of a sudden BOOM! Hills and slippery slopes with inclines and dips and turns. The most important lesson that i learned about life is that tomorrow is another day. You don’t have to be optimistic about the sun rising again. As long as your able to open your eyes and see another day, things are better. Now if i chose to be a loser and sit and watched jerry springer all the time and hoped for what i wanted out of life , then thats called wasting away . I tend to beat myself up about all that i have going on in life, i have alot of should could of would of, but the best is i seem my progress. I see that im somewhere different and heading in the right direction. At some point i will be where i want to be , and guess what this thing called life is going to throw something at me , but i will be better prepared . If we all just took a look at where we were and where we are now life would seem so much better , my self-included
Loud silence (The ball is in your court)
When i was a child i hated to be ignored , or the DREADFUL silent treatment . When my mother would ignore or a friend would ignore me it would drive me crazy. I promised i would never would give the silent treatment to anyone. Boy how life changes your view.
As an adult I have used the silent treatment on all those that need it . I realized that the silent treatment is so loud . It seems people understand silence better than any explanation you can give, any argument you can have . Why argue when you can let someone know how you feel by not even speaking . Oh they will heat you loud and clear. What i love is it allows people to go stir crazy . People will start to make up stories about what happen or they put false information into the atmosphere for a response. Human being need conversation and explanations to things . We are communicators by nature . So for someone to give the silent treatment is torture and i love . when i realized the power in not speaking it changed my life . Now don’t get me wrong i speak on issues that are necessary, I wont speak on nonsense . I know what your asking , what is nonsense? Nonsense would be me replying to anything that you know to be true . Why continue to defend your self with people who don’t under stand you or cant over what your point of view. To those draining conversations i say give them the silencio treatment . Not only will that make a person think about what they said but the ball will be in your court . You can play how ever you want . I say make them sweat
How to survive college as an Adult
I am a women that is 35 with a husband and a 9 year old child . Oh did I say I work a full time job. College has been an experience to say the least , to study , cook , clean maintain a marriage. I went back to college so that i can move further in my career . I never thought about how hard it would be to be successful in school and take care of my responsibilities. many stories have been told women going back to school and being a single mother or having multiple kids. It took me a while to get into a schedule. Work school home , work school home , and some days work school home husband. What i can tell you is the most important thing you need is support .With out support at home you will not succeed at college . I am lucky enough to have a husband that has a job that can accommodate him , so that he can pick up our son and handle things at home . Don’t get me wrong as a mother i feel HORRIBLE LEAVING my son . I feel like i am out of the loop with his every day life . The sacrifice that i am taking is really for him and me .
Now concentrating in school is very hard . With everyday life and responsibilities its hard to learn and to process what is being taught . I am to busy thinking .”ok i will make two meats on Sunday that should last us to Wednesday ” Like really i need to be concentrating on this lesson . At the end of the day college and adult life works out , the most i can tell you is to keep pushing and if i figure out to to concentrate a little better i will let you know . Until then i will make these B grades and keep on trucking.
Ebates
So recently i have been looking for more ways to save on things that i purchase. Anyone who is reading this more than likely would love to get a discount , find a coupon or get money back for buying anything . WELL HAVE A GREAT OPTION FOR YOU !! During the weeks leading to thanks giving and xmas the ebates commercial was comng on every commercial break , i though here we go with another scam to manipulate people into buying more. When speaking to a friend who is around my age early thirties , she told me she uses ebates and received over $300.00 dollars in 6 months. Now listen that is alot of money to receive back just for buying things you like . With out my friend pushing i went online and joined ebates . The way it works is you go to their website and they have just about every store you can name . Each store offers a percentage of money back once you make the purchase . For example i shop on charlotte Russe during the holiday season i bought about $150.00 worth of clothes. ok lets me serious i spent at $500.00 or more and they was offering 10% of money with every purchase . So that was a great deal . What i also like about ebates is you don’t have to search for the coupons, they list all the coupons from the store which will allow you to save even more. If you were thinking ebates was for at home moms with nothing to do , or compulsive shoppers I am here to tell ya it’s not .
last minute packing oh my !
One of the worst feelings in the world is feeling over whelmed. Well as you already know I am rocky and its always a rocky life . So I went to Bermuda a week ago as a 35th birthday gift , not to mention I had a case of the fuck it’s. What does this mean , it means you know you have a lot on your plate , life feels like its closing in , you have no time to comb your hair and you shrug your shoulders and say fuck it . You buy something that you don’t need or you purchase a trip to Bermuda two weeks before you take an 8 day trip to Jamaica. yes sometimes the case of the fuck its can give you anxiety but while purchasing and leaving on a plane you have a moment of serenity. Now that my moment is up I am feeling like a mom with 9 kids . Why am I overwhelmed right, I am going on another vacation to Jamaica, but it’s Jamaican me crazy , I have school , full time work, full time mom , full time mom , I haven’t unpacked from the first trip , my sandals that I ordered to save time from going into stores canceled on me . urbanog best place for cheap sandals worst place when your in a hurry. Not to mention Bermuda was cold 62 degrees no we didn’t do research on the best time to go to Bermuda , so the items in my luggage will not work in Jamaica . My hairs not done ,my nails , and feet need to be done . ladies you already know these things are tedious but VERY IMPORTANT. Are you tired? cause I am . Ok so I was sitting at work and going over my list of things I have to get done going stir crazy that I’m leaving in five days, I took a deep breath and said rocky you have to figure out a plan . Cause ladies in gents I was ready for a bottle of Jack Daniels, and you know how that would have ended , yes with another case of the Fuck it’s . No Beuno! So I sat down and wrote the most important things to the least important. This was very hard to do with everything needing to be done. I started with packing check, then went shopping check and had dinner with the hubby check . that killed two birds with one stone. Went to basket ball with my son ,gotta get that mommy time in check . finally took a day off and completed the rest .
The moral of this is I drove my own damn self to have anxiety . Never wait for the last minute to do things . Be proactive and life will run smoother . If I took my advise this blog would be named rockys smooth life , but unfortunately its a rocky life for me peeps. Until next time . Oh let me know some ways you prepare for trips . Pictures will be posted of me and my daily outfits , cause you know im pluse size and fabulous !!
it's a rocky life 